FEBRUARY
"SELF-AWARNESS"
Achieving your goals is hard enough. Don't let a lack of Self-Awareness slow down your progress. When you are unwilling to see yourself as you are - shortcomings and all - you set yourself up to fall victim to those exact shortcomings. Develop your ability to be real with yourself and get TF out of your own way, Cutie!
*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development:
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Week 1 - Self-Care 101
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Week 2 - Finances 101
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Week 3 - Emotional IQ
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Week 4 - Accountability 101
Self-Care 101
How much downtime do you need to ensure you're refreshed and ready to go when it's time to GO? Do you need 2 pedicures a month or 3? How many hours in your schedule do you need to dedicate to yourself? Finding the answers to these questions is a great way to practice "self-awareness."
Finances 101
Spending money is fun...but it's SO MUCH MORE fun when you spend wisely. Being aware of your spending/saving habits as well as the ideas that you've learned over the years about money will help you provide an ENTIRELY new level of financial security & freedom for yourself.
Emotional Intelligence 101
You don't need to "control" your emotions in order to feel like you are being aware of them. Most times, it's just about "feeling" them and learning from them. It takes courage to feel your feelings because not all of them actually "feel" good. This month, try your best to simply acknowledge what you are feeling. That is a good place to start.
Accountability 101
When you become aware of your own bullshit AND make meaningful change as a result, you are practicing accountability. Make this a normal thing and watch how your life changes for the better.
FEBRUARY
"SELF-AWARNESS"
Achieving your goals is hard enough. Don't let a lack of Self-Awareness slow down your progress. When you are unwilling to see yourself as you are - shortcomings and all - you set yourself up to fall victim to those exact shortcomings. Develop your ability to be real with yourself and get TF out of your own way, Cutie!
*Our four areas of focus this month will be in these areas of development:
-
Week 1 - Self-Care 101
-
Week 2 - Finances 101
-
Week 3 - Emotional IQ
-
Week 4 - Accountability 101
Self-Care 101
How much downtime do you need to ensure you're refreshed and ready to go when it's time to GO? Do you need 2 pedicures a month or 3? How many hours in your schedule do you need to dedicate to yourself? Finding the answers to these questions is a great way to practice "self-awareness."
Finances 101
Spending money is fun...but it's SO MUCH MORE fun when you spend wisely. Being aware of your spending/saving habits as well as the ideas that you've learned over the years about money will help you provide an ENTIRELY new level of financial security & freedom for yourself.
Emotional Intelligence 101
You don't need to "control" your emotions in order to feel like you are being aware of them. Most times, it's just about "feeling" them and learning from them. It takes courage to feel your feelings because not all of them actually "feel" good. This month, try your best to simply acknowledge what you are feeling. That is a good place to start.
Accountability 101
When you become aware of your own bullshit AND make meaningful change as a result, you are practicing accountability. Make this a normal thing and watch how your life changes for the better.
HEALING
101
Feel Cute'
TM
The Lesson
Owning your s*t is power. It's basically saying: "I could work on this. Let me work on this," but sometimes we make it out to be way more than that when we don't have to. Just own your sh*t and work on yourself. Simple.
The Homework
Pay close attention to AND keep track of how often you attempt to dodge accountability for YOUR actions; no matter how uncomfortable it may feel. Admit to yourself when you know you could have done better AND promise to do better the next time you get another opportunity to make a better choice for yourself, your life, and your community.
The Challenge
Your challeng is to resist the urge to make excuses for or 'make light' of your behavior and TRY to pinpoint how your actions effected others positively as well as negatively.
STEP ONE:
accountability
KEEP IT REAL
Own Your Shit. Period. You know whether you put in 100% or not and if you didn't put in 100%, don't walk around acting like you DESERVE 100%. That is what taking ownership of your shit means. It means you hold yourself accountable when you fall short so that you can make sure you don't fall short the next time. It means checking yourself LONG before any other human being ever has a chance to.
LESSON: "Own Your Sh*t!"
HOMEWORK: "Keep Track!"
CHALLENGE: "Practice!"
STEP TWO:
emotional iq
KEEP IT RAW.
Not knowing your triggers is a recipe for disaster. One of the hardest pills to swallow is accepting responsibility for your triggers. That means that nobody is responsible for unknowingly triggering you. It is YOUR responsibility to know what makes you tick and that requires that you develop your Emotional IQ.
LESSON: "Know Your Triggers!"
HOMEWORK: "Feel Your Feels!"
CHALLENGE: "STAY COOL!"
The Lesson
How well do you know yourself? Do you know what riggers your anger? Sadness? Laughter? This is important information because when you know your triggers, you can manage them better when they come up. Why is this important? Because how can you 'keep it Cute' when you not only are unaware of your triggers but you lack a strategy to manage them should they arise in public? Sit with what that might look like for you.
The Homework
"Sani, Creator of The Cutie Booty Magazine here with the Homework assignment. Practice LIGHTLY triggering yourself. Emphasis on 'Lightly.' We are not Psychologists nor do we play one on TV. For example, I have a terrible fear of opening cupboards. I once lived in an apartment that had A LOT of roaches back when my Mother had a mental breakdown. Mommy wasn't in her right mind to pay for an exterminator or contact the landlord to help us remedy the problem so it just got worse and worse. Whenever I would go in our cupboards back then, it wasn't uncommon for a roach to fall out of the cupboard. I had one drop into my bowl of cereal before. Because of that I'm always a little weary of opening people's cupboards. For years I would get physically nauseous after watching people grab dishes and serve them to me without washing them. I had to take it on the chin because I didn't want to seem stuck up especially to people who were humble serving me! So, in order to get over this 'trigger' MY 'homework' was to challenge myself to open as many cupboards as I could to feel the genuine anxiety I associated with doing this very basic action AND to create a new experience where I can open cupboards without worrying that roaches will fall out of nowhere. I had to retrain how I thought about cupboards. I still get a little uncomfortable about people's cupboards but it's not to the point where I'm getting nauseaus. Now it's your turn. Find a harmless trigger like this one and work on it. If you have more concerning triggers please see a professional, Cutie because I certainly do!"
The Challenge
The challenge is in how you handle being triggered. This why you should start with something 'light' that you can handle. It's not so much about you 'triggering yourself' as it is about you exposing yourself to what triggers you so that you can learn what YOU need to learn about YOUR triggers. It's uncomfortable work but in order to get over our emotional triggers we have to 'feel' the feelings associated with those triggers in order to not be overwhelmed by them.
The Lesson
Your Network truly is your Net Worth. Your friends have an effect on your quality of life in your trials and your triumphs. Think about how helpful it would be to have friends that are there for you in rough time versus friends who only have time for us when we're doing good. Also consider how it would feel having a friend that is perfectly comfortable celebrating your wins with you without a HINT of jealousy. Sit and think about how that
The Homework
Vet your crew. This will be challenging if if you've never analyzed them before. Does their behavior align with who your morals and vice versa? Do you feel like they are a good or bad influence on your life? What does 'hanging out' look like? Do you enjoy spending time with them because of who they are or because of what you think they can do for you? These questions are uncomfortable and they're supposed to be. It's work. Home work.
The Challenge
There is a saying that goes 'It's not what you do but how you do it' and hat's the BEST. way to describe this challenge. Vetting your circle is tough work. You will begin to see things you may not have paid attention to in the past. A huge part of this challenge is being able to practice 'Emotional IQ' to find out the information you need Your challenge is to do so without shying away from the results of what you learn no matter how uncomfortable things may become for you as a result of you doing this work. Remain Calm. People learning that not everyone is their group is good for them is totally normal. How you respond to learning that someone is no longer a good fit for you friendship is all apart of 'Keepin it Cute.'
STEP THREE:
network
KEEP IT RARE
Your network should be flexible enough to grow and change with you. The minute you feel like your circle is constricting you from the growth you know you must experience in order to become who you want, you need to reassess said circle.
LESSON: "Network = Net Worth"
HOMEWORK: "Vet Your Circle"
CHALLENGE: "STAY COOL!"
THE TEST
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APPLICATION
Elementary school conditions us that 'THE TEST' is the most important part of the learning process. Here at Cutie Booty Media, INC. we believe that the magic happens when you apply what you learn. Think about it. Think about a time where application of theory is important in your life. What do you expect from people in your life when you tell them about your needs. How would you feel if they failed to 'apply' the knowledge you shared with them and continued on ignoring your needs. How would that make you feel? Now you understand the importance of 'application.' In Cuties Classes, the 'test' is whether or not you will 'apply' what you've learned. Only then will you begin to learn about yourself and what YOU NEED to 'feel cute.' You just have to apply these methods FIRST. The question and test is...will you?